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Leading internships with AssistU Virtual Assistants is a pure joy for me.<\/p>\n

It’s work, don\u2019t get me wrong\u2026 I generally spend twice the time it would take me to do the work myself when I am teaching them things. But, really, that isn’t the hard part.<\/p>\n

Learning to change hats is the hard part.<\/p>\n

See, many fresh VA’s are leaving a corporate job and an employee\/employer relationship. They are still acting as employees.<\/p>\n

I got past that a while ago. I understand what it means to stand up for myself and for the client at the same time and be present in the relationship as a partner rather than an employee. It means taking the helm from time to time\u2026 following the course the client has set. I am now comfortable in that role and while I can always improve\u2026 it’s becoming more natural to me now.<\/p>\n

When I work with a new intern, I have to nurture that out of them. It’s tough to be a leader\/partner with clients, teach and lead an internship, and show up in a way that allows the intern to be a leader\/partner so they can build that muscle.<\/p>\n

\"My<\/p>\n

Really, it is the reason I want to lead these internships. When I graduated from AssistU in 2011, I worked with 2010 AssistU VA of the Year Larissa Parks<\/a>\u00a0as her intern. She taught me so much. She didn’t let me slide into showing up as an employee. I am grateful for that.<\/p>\n

The following summer, Anastacia Brice<\/a>\u00a0offered an internship and it was not only right up my alley in content management, who wouldn’t want a chance to learn from her?<\/p>\n

Anastacia also got me to build that partner muscle. She taught me to say what needs to be said\u2026 because not saying it only makes it worse later. I grew even more.<\/p>\n

Ironically, leading the internships now gets me to grow yet again. Knowing that while I show up for my clients by being a strong partner makes them feel safe, showing up in that same way with an intern makes them feel like an employee\u2026 the last thing I want them to be. I am learning to dance with it. Knowing when to ask, when to tell, when to follow, when to lead. It’s like learning a new language and tripping all over the other ones you already know. It can be awkward and I make mistakes. Lucky for me\u2026 when I do I get to see if the intern shows up with her big girl panties on and stands up for herself.<\/p>\n

If she does, I get to applaud her and reinforce it. If she doesn’t, I get to call her out on it and have a deeper conversation. Really, when I mess up it is a win\/win, but I prefer planning it than the feeling I get when it happens organically because I am being assertive in the wrong way.<\/p>\n

Standing up as a leader and a partner means many things, but most often it means saying the thing that needs to be said regardless of how it might make me feel when I am saying it. Whether it’s discussing a higher retainer because of the discomfort of being unavailable when a client needs to go over hours on a lower one, working out who will do what in an absence because I have a right to take time off when I want to, or up-holdng my own standards with my interns but in a way that allows them the opportunity to say out-loud that those standards conflict with their own\u2026 it is all a dance we must learn the steps to if we want to grow in relationship.<\/p>\n

And, it’s such a great dance with the right partner.<\/p>\n

How do you show up in your partnerships?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Leading internships with AssistU Virtual Assistants is a pure joy for me. It’s work, don\u2019t get me wrong\u2026 I generally spend twice the time it would take me to do the work myself when I am teaching them things. But, really, that isn’t the hard part. Learning to change hats is the hard part. 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