This week I learned something interesting about creating change and it was all about our “stance”. It was related in a way that had an impact. Life happens on a schedule… th
en something changes, and our stance changes.

When we had a cat, life was easy. We could come and go and do things with a fair amount of flexibility.

We got our dog, Finlay, and suddenly we had to make different choices and preparations to be away from home for periods of time. Our stance changed.

When I first learned to shoot, I learned the isosceles stance. I shot that way for a long time. A month ago I began to learn more about defensive shooting, and a more defensive stance. Turning my body to the side so that I am a narrower target. How I hold myself in relation to others had to change.

Relationship stances are similar. We all have a stance with how we relate to our our spouse, children, friends and family, and even clients and customers. Learning to shift unhealthy stances creates better relationships.

We can have a protective stance with others, not let them in/close. We can be unhelpful, guarded.

We can have no boundaries, and a stance of them being more important that us, or we can have healthy boundaries and a stance of mutual importance, equality.

It’s an interesting way to view change… through viewing a shift in our stance. I had not considered this before and am sitting with it now.

Looking at changes I wish to make in my own life and examining the stance I currently have.

• Some houseguests are easier than others.
• Working out sucks.
• Breaking for lunch is hard.

These are stances I currently have that I wish to change. Maybe replace them with…

• All houseguests are blessings in their own way.
• Working out keeps me strong to perform in life.
• Breaking for lunch allows me to perform better in the afternoon.

Got a stance you wish to shift as you learn and grow? I would love to hear about it.